No What You Have When You Have It

Most people base their relationships on what they have seen, friends, other family, but mainly their parents whether it was good or bad. If it was good they want to duplicated it. Most people although not always the case, when it is bad want to make their relationship better. I think the problem is that there is a vicious cycle that we are droped into when we are born. It spends round and round faster and faster. We don't know how to get out. Because we haven't seen it or we weren't taught, we don't know how to truely love and or we can't recognize it when it is right there in front of your face. I know I have said this before, but i am going to say it again no what you have when you have it or someone esle will end up with what you had and lost. Don't end up with egg on your face instead of your plate. When you meet a man or woman don't ask your friends, your parents what to do. Don't fall back on past relationships or your parents and freinds relationships go with your heart and love them back period. You have to know the difinition of love. You can't find it in a dictionary. It has to come from your heart.

Speak ur Mind

Sometimes we have stuff on our mind that we want to get out in the open. A lot of tims there is not always someone to tell say it too. Here you can speak ur mind. For all those who know what to say and how to say it lets talk.

A Gift from God

Finding the one you are suppose to be with is a gift from god. From my experiences what i found out about people and their relationship is that from a young age people base the kind of relationship they would like on others that they have seen, like their parent, television, friends, and family. It my not come wrapped in a pretty neat package, but it is a gift none the less. Except it and be happy it came to you in any form.

soul mates (real or bogus)

Recently i said that i believe in soul mates. I basicly said that there is a soul mate for every person, but most of us rarely every find them. We don't have to find our soul mate we just have to work hard on the relationship before us. the one that we are currently in or the one we will have in the future. Now as of today i am not sure if that is the case. My question is: Soul mates mates is it real or is it bogus. People use that word like they use i love you or good morning. I thought when you use those words it was supose to mean something. If you decide that a person is your soul mate than you don't i mean can't just leave them at the drop of a hat. You are connected and its just doesn't die that easy. If that is the case than maybe they weren't your soul mate or better yet maybe there is no such thing or maybe it is a fairy tale like Jack in the bean stalk. I find someone that i thought i could be with for the rest of my life. the situation wasn't perfect i know, but i love her. She call me here soul mate. Me and her i thought were so connected, but when thinks became rough she couldn't handle it. She was a ship that couldn't handle the storm. No matter what when i said i love her i meant it.

My definition of love

Love is part of relationships and like relationships love is a funny thing as well. Love can only be described by the one who seeks it finds it and holds it deep within their heart. love can be found any where in anyone in any shape or form. Well any way here's my definition of love.

Love is when i start driving down the road and i stop dead in the middle of the road. i turn around and franticly scream my son's name thinking i left him in a store.

love is fear

Love is grounding your daugter than keeping them in the house while watching them every second because they want to run the streets knowing that they hate it and can't understand why.

love is caring

Love is when someone mentions my grandfather's name or i see a picture of him or talk about the times we spent together while at the same time wishing he were still here. i think about these thinks and it turns me to tears.

love is sad

Love is letting a man pour alcohol down your throat while calling you names i dare not say the words that no one deserves to be called not even the worse sinner. letting him humiliate you in front of friends but still you stay for the sake of the kids.

love is the ultimate sacrifice

Love is meeting a young lady and taking her in your home to start a serious relationship even though your not ready because she had a fight with her mother than stayed with her for over six years waiting for the right moment to tell her that my heart not in it. i didn't want to hurt her feelings.

love is patience

Love is meeting a lady and marrying her after a year though the foundation of our relationship wasn't stable and staying with her for over four years telling you that you are doing a terrible job even though you are trying your best

love is frustrating

Love is not walking away standing firm and holding your ground though you are week, tired, and drained of all strength while fighting to stay alive in a marriage that's not working and fear it never will.

love is hurtfull

Love is finding your one true soul mate after picking threw a barrow of bad apples.

love is amazing

Love is powerful

Love is powerless

Love can make you

Love can break you

Love is what you make it

Love is what it makes you

Love is your best friend

Love is your own worse enemy

Love can heal you

Love can cut you like a knife

Love isn't restricted to any boundaries

Love is all these things and so much more


Signed: piece, love, and happiness
Yours truly Eddie Smith

Relationships are funny

Relationship are a funny thing. We all will have one, two or more in our life span. I have had them. My mother and father has had them. There parents has had them. Some last a day, a week, a month, or even a life time. Some are good. Some are bad. Some are just okay. relationships has been around for centuries, so it should be easy for us meaning you and me to figure out by now right! I mean it makes sense to me. There are people who are married for thiry, forty, or more year and they die together. At the same there has been others that have been married the same amount of time and they get divorced. There has been marriages that only lasted three or four years. The question is why are relationships so hard. Why do some last and others fail. I think in my opinion the answer lies within oneself. I believe that every relationship is different, but there are some constants. Things that are the same no matter what relationship you are in. A person needs to communicate both talk and listen. A person needs to be treated with love and respect. I believe that everyone has a sole mate, but i also believe that you don't have to meet them to be happy in a relationship because most of us never meet them. If you do have a change to meet your sole mate you will never want to let them go. For those of us who never meet our sole mate relationships take work. It is a full time job with double over time. Some work some don't no matter what you do. Thats the breaks kid! Lets break down the word relationship and see where it get us:

re: means redo, relate, revive, remind,retake.(some times a relation gets stale and you have to freshen it up!
rela: means you need to talk/communicate with your partner.
ships: means there are big and little ships meaning relationships. some ships come to dock for a while than they go back out to sea. one ship leaves another comes along. Ships being ships out in the sea are some times caught in storms. Some ship come out of the storm ok others are damaged and are never the same. There are ships that are not ships at all. They are called boats for example sail boats are used for recreation. You know the ones i mean. the ones that are just for kicks. The problem is people can't reconizge a ship from a boat. They become hurt and are never the same. My point is know what you are getting into and when you do work hard as hell to stay into it.

sign piece, luv, and happiness
yours truely Eddie Smith